When Indirect Communication is the best Choice
September 27, 2010 by Admin · Leave a Comment
Suppose you wanted someone to know that you really appreciated the work they did. Shouldn’t you just go tell them? Well, that could be OK, I suppose, but it would really be gratifying to that person if you told Other People instead; people who are likely to get the message back to the individual.
Just imagine:
Joe is in the company cafeteria when a colleague says to him, “I heard your boss talking about your report this morning at the marketing meeting. He used your outline to show how the product roll-out would look. Way to go, fella!”
Of course, the boss could have just told you it was a good report, but I don’t think it would have had near the impact as knowing it had been bruited about the office.
- It wasn’t just a generalized ‘atta boy!’ of “feel-good” encouragement
- It wasn’t just a softly spoken private recognition between the two of you
It was out front, public declaration of your value. Just knowing that others heard it without it coming from you or being directed at you in front of others validates the integrity of the praise.
People are talking! Ain’t it sweet!?
Try it out yourself. Praise someone behind their back and see what happens. We are talking about backward gossip, aren’t we? I wish ‘pissog’ made a prettier word.
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Carol Fleming, Ph.D., is the author of “It’s the Way You Say It: Becoming Articulate, Well-spoken and Clear”. A comprehensive guide to vocal development and improvement of communication skills. To get your own copy, go to http://amzn.to/ItsTheWayYouSayIt
It’s The Way You Say It: Becoming Articulate, Well-spoken and Clear
August 13, 2010 by Admin · Leave a Comment
I am looking at the most beautiful book I have ever seen.
I wrote it….and it’s about you.
- You were concerned about the impression you made by your speech during job interviews.
- People said that you did not ‘get to the point’.
- You had to give a speech and were terrified.
- Your boss said you sounded immature.
- You wanted a deeper, richer and better voice.
- You often had to repeat yourself.
Your personal communication concerns became the focus of my own life work. I collected your stories, my advice and our work into a book called
It’s the Way You Say It: Becoming Articulate, Well-spoken and Clear
This book is:
- A collection of real-life problems and down-to-earth solutions written to provide support and guidance for personal communication improvement
- A really good present for people who could use some help (or a hint)
- A fine addition to the workplace library
- A valuable resource for other therapists and counselors
- Added value for those who already own my audio series, The Sound of Your Voice
To get your own copy of my new book, please go to:
http://www.amazon.com/Its-Way-You-Say-Well-spoken/dp/1450215165/
I welcome your response and reviews.
And here is where I say thank you to all of you who have taught me everything I know about the communication concerns in everyday interactions. You have trusted me with your hopes, your feelings and your aspirations. I am grateful that our paths have crossed.
Sincerely,
Carol Fleming, Ph.D.
It’s The Way You Say It
It’s the Way You Say It ….. but you knew that, didn’t you?
You’ve noticed that words are not the only players in our speaking. Talking turns out to be a pretty complex behavior. We are excellent analyzers of communication in other people, not so good for ourselves. Helping people understand and modify their impact has been a life’s work for me. Soon that work will be available to you in the form of a book called, you guessed it ….
It’s the Way You Say It - Becoming Articulate, Well-spoken and Clear
Easy to read and use, this book was written with the average person in mind and is based on the concerns they have about their speaking. Which is to say, the book is not an academic review. I do not attempt to be comprehensive, but I do attempt to be maximally useful. People care about the sound of their voice, their image as mature or confident, the adequacy of their vocabulary.
I bring unique knowledge and skills to the speaking needs of individuals and corporate clients. If you want to speak your mind effectively, I want to help you. I know what is important to the adult learner and how to streamline the learning process.
My book, It’s the Way You Say It; Becoming Articulate, Well-spoken and Clear is in production and will soon be available to you. Be sure you are signed up to receive notification. This book represents all that you, my clients, have taught me about the needs of people for communication effectiveness and comfort. This way I can help so many more people.
To learn more about my workshops, coaching and training products please visit my website or call me at (415) 391.9179
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