All Relationships Start with The Sound of Your Voice

We have all had the experience of seeing a really good looking person standing there silently: so handsome, so stylish, so sexy. We have a chance to imagine them with an equally attractive personality.

And then they open their mouth and say something.

Oh dear, the image is shattered. The voice is harsh, the pitch high, the rate fast and the content vapid. NOT what you expected from the gorgeous one. Feel that disconnect? The let-down?

Let’s turn thus around and apply it to you.

How much time do you spend on your appearance before leaving your home? Male or female, boy or girl, you are plucking, combing, cleaning and preening to make yourself attractive as possible.

Think: (1) how important it is to you that you are dressed appropriately for the occasion; and (2) how much time do you spend in front of the mirror.

Now, how much time do you spend considering the sound of your voice, hmmm?
Don’t bother, I already know the answer.

3 Tips you really should consider to improve “The Sound of Your Voice”

1. Your personal credibility is strongly related to the congruity of the sound of your voice and your visual image. It determines the authenticity of your first impression. Does your voice say the same thing that your visual image does?

2. If you will actually listen to yourself talk on a decent recording you will learn more about yourself than any psychologist can tell you. And once you know how you really sound, you can determine if there is something about the way you talk that you would like to change. Or not. Many people find that they are a lot better than they thought they were, once they actually listen to themselves.

3. You can change many features of your personal communication if you want to; voice quality and pitch, speaking rate, vocabulary, mannerisms, courtesy, vocal quality or volume. It will probably not be quick or easy, but it might be the most important investment in your personal development that you could make. You will need to find the appropriate coach to help you but it is your determination that will make it happen.

It is natural to care about the impression you make by the way your look …and sound. Let’s see if you can’t get them to say the same thing.

If you want to learn more about how Dr. Fleming can help you improve your communication skills, please call her at telephone 415.391.9179 or send her an email at [email protected]

Carol Fleming, Ph.D., is the author of “It’s the Way You Say It”: Becoming Articulate, Well-spoken and Clear. A comprehensive guide to vocal development and improvement of communication skills. To get your own copy of my new book, please go to:

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